The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it   against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a "quasi-god." He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define   who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary.

Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. 

Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT. 

I read this article and it made me think about a few things:

After coming out of a long relationship especially if the break up was painful in my opinion two things can happen:

1. we can be completely turned off or afraid to get into another relationship.
2. we can be afraid of losing again that if someone comes along we are interested in we move forward with everything we have right away and it comes of as crazy.

These are just my opinions. Read the article of one person’s experience and then respond with your views. We might not want to admit it publicly but I believe there have been times many have come on too strong and scared the other person off, especially women.  

Here is the article by Rich Santos:  [Editor's note: Rich Santos writes the relationships blog, Sex and the Single Guy, for MarieClaire.com. This is an excerpt from that blog.]

My friend John met a girl named Stacy in a bar, and the next day she texted him asking if he wanted to hang out that night. John told her that he didn't feel like going out that night because he was dealing with a traumatic situation with a friend. Stacy replied that she was sorry and hoped things would get better for him. Then, Stacy descended into madness that would have made an Edgar Allen Poe protagonist proud.

She began assaulting John with texts explaining how embarrassed she was that she bothered John while he was feeling so down. John's answers, cordial in the beginning, eroded into one-word answers.

Stacy'stexts piled up on each other as John answered less frequently, trying to end the discussion. And Stacy was still obsessed with going out with John. She sent some of these:

"So ... if this traumatic thing wasn't going on, would you want to go out with me?"

After John stopped answering completely, Stacy managed to get even more bizarre, explaining her strange behavior as a sort of "disclaimer":

"I just got out of a relationship, so I'm a little rusty at this sort of thing."

Ouch. By the end, Stacy had entered full-on psychosis, talking to herself within texts that John wasn't answering:

"I mean it's not like I'm really texting you that much, or being that invasive."

Eventually, John was completely spooked, so he texted her:

"Wow, please stop texting me."

And, with that, it was over — but not without her getting the final word:

"Wow ur an *-hole. Bye."

So ... Stacy came on too strong, and my friend was right to get creeped out. One annoying thing about dating is that guys who don't act anywhere near as obsessive as Stacy get labeled as "coming on too strong" because women are very sensitive to this in the beginning.

Trust me, by now I've learned to just text/call once and then give up so that I don't overwhelm in the early stages.

I get a lot of hand-holding from my female friends behind the curtain: They tell me to tread lightly in the beginning so that I don't look weird. Among the many "rules" my girl friends tell me to follow:

• Don't text or call too much
• Don't make it obvious that you like her (this seems kind of counterproductive)
• Don't say too much in your texts or emails

In addition to the advice given to me by my many female handlers, I've heard from these same girls about the things guys do that makes them appear to be coming on too strong:

• Getting jealous too early on
• Calling/texting/emailing/Facebooking too much
• Demanding too much time

There must be a point where it becomes acceptable to start giving a girl more attention, and I guess it varies for everyone. Personally, I never seem to know when it's the right time for this.

Here's the frustrating part: I hear women complain that a guy is coming on too strong ... and then complain that a guy is not giving them enough attention. There's some magic (and usually impossible to find) button in the middle somewhere that a guy has to push.

Sadly, I'm at the point where I know my chances are best if I look like I'm not thinking about a girl too much. This is my default move, because I know if I come on strong, or tell a girl I actually like her, my chances will die.

Maybe the guy who comes on too strong kills all his mystery — and I admit we all like a little mystery.

Many Christian men and women are waiting, praying and searching for a Christian mate. Some hold on and wait on God and some get tired and go on their own. I have a prayer ministry and 80% of the prayer requests received at Save My Loved Ones is for marriage restoration.  Women requesting prayer that God will save their husband and about 2% of that 80% from men requesting the same. Divorce is not pleasant and it is not easy.  So I am of the mindset that it is best to get it right before heading down that road. Our  Father loves us beyond anything we as humans are capable of and He always, always shows us signs from the very start if something is going to be harmful but if we are not looking with our spiritual eyes we overlook those signs. I haven’t looked at all the profiles here, but I would guess that more than 50% of the people here are divorced as I am. I believe most here want to do it right the next time. I know I do. But there is one thing about a Godly mate that is very important and that is they are a lover of God’s Word. So they way I see it if a person does not love the Bible, which is the perfect reflection of Christ Jesus, then they do not love the Lord and they will certainly not love you the way you desire, or should be loved. This is not something that can be faked for a long period of time so pay attention. 

A man or woman of God will love to study the word WITH YOU and love to SEE YOU LEARN biblical truth.  If you are praying for a Godly Mate DO NOT waste your time with a person that does not love to spend time in prayer and in the Word. YOU WILL MISS OUT ON THE GREATEST JOY A COUPLE CAN SHARE AND THIS IS HAVING A SPIRITUAL COMPANION. Life is not always a bed of roses, hard times just have a way of showing up no matter what you do or don’t do. As a Christian you are going to need a SPIRITUAL COMPANION in your corner. Some who will stand with you and love you like your Savior. Some who relies on the Savior and won’t run.

Too many women and men are unhappily married because they have not obtained full intimacy with the love of their life because their mate is not willing to become spiritually intimate with them. This is so important that it even affects the sex life of a couple. Studies have shown that a couple that worships and prays together have a much better sex life with one another. Take it from one who knows… Avoid that man or woman like the plaque who will not pray and study the word with you!!!!! 

God bless us all,

Angeline 

As the wind blows through the branches of a tree it causes the old leaves that have withered to fall to the ground, so it is as when the Lord He blows upon you removing all that is draining the life out of you.

How many leaves have withered and dried on your tree? Consider and realize it is time to let them go. When you hold onto old leaves, they drain the tree of “life giving goodness” and no longer help in any way. The leaves served well in the past, but now the Lord is blowing them away because they are no longer needed. Yes, the blessings of the past had their place, and took you through dark times. You often long to go back there to experience them again, you have hoped in vain that they would come back to life and once again flourish and show their glory but their time is over, that era has passed and a new era awaits you in its place.  

Let go of the past. The Lord has a more glorious future for you than what you have known. Do not waste any more time and energy trying to revive what has died for its life has run its course and it will not return again.

As the Lord blows through the branches of your tree giving new life to the leaves that should remain, and removes those that must go do not fear. It is a wind of blessing, even though you may feel you are being shaken from all sides. Once the old leaves have been removed and fallen to the ground new ones will grow in their place and your tree will rise up to a new level of blessing and prosperity says the Lord.

Many think the above scripture speaks of money only. However, what the scripture is really saying is “whatever we want to harvest we must sow”. Everything on this earth reproduces after its kind. The principle of sowing extends beyond created things such as trees, cows, fish, apples, wheat, and so on. We know plants and animals have life, but did you realize that spiritual entities and words also have life? 

When God said that every living thing was to be of its kind, it also included these: hate after its kind, love after its kind, anger after its kind, grace after its kind, and so forth. If you think about this for a moment, you will see this principle at work everyday in your life. It’s like this “Sow what you will; expect what you sow”. We reap exactly the same fruit as the seeds we have sown. If you want to know what your coming harvest is, recall in your mind what kind of seeds you have planted. Better yet, what kind of seeds do you sow now? 

From the beginning, God proclaimed each living thing would bring forth its own. Diligence brings forth diligence. Mercy brings forth mercy. Enthusiasm brings forth enthusiasm. Compassion brings forth compassion. Kindness brings forth kindness. Friendship brings forth friendship. Love brings forth love. The crop declares the planted seeds. What does your work bring forth? 

God cannot give into your hands or bosom if they are closed. They must be open and empty ready to receive. Realize what ever you do and say multiplies. So open wide the floodgates of your heart in love and adoration, and pour forth all that you have inside you. And God will open up the floodgates of heaven for you. 

Isaiah 58:6-12 (The Message)

"This is the kind of fast day I'm after: to break the chains of injustice, get rid of exploitation in the workplace, free the oppressed, cancel debts. What I'm interested in seeing you do is: sharing your food with the hungry, inviting the homeless poor into your homes, putting clothes on the shivering ill-clad, being available to your own families. Do this and the lights will turn on, and your lives will turn around at once. Your righteousness will pave your way. The God of glory will secure your passage. Then when you pray, God will answer. 

You'll call out for help and I'll say, 'Here I am.' "If you get rid of unfair practices, quit blaming victims; quit gossiping about other people's sins. If you are generous with the hungry and start giving yourselves to the down-and-out your lives will begin to glow in the darkness, your shadowed lives will be bathed in sunlight. I will always show you where to go. I'll give you a full life in the emptiest of places—firm muscles, strong bones. You'll be like a well-watered garden, a gurgling spring that never runs dry. You'll use the old rubble of past lives to build anew, rebuild the foundations from out of your past. You'll be known as those who can fix anything, restore old ruins, rebuild and renovate, make the community livable again.

The reason there is so much ungodliness among many Christians is that they are trying to live godly in their own strength following rules, regulations and rituals. As long as a Christian tries to do things in their own strength, they will NEVER HAVE VICTORY and NEVER walk in the fullness of HOLY SPIRIT because in essence THEY ARE THEIR OWN GOD. Once they receive Christ, they leave Him by the wayside and try to achieve the benefits of salvation on their own by walking in the flesh according to the law. For the flesh sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh . . ." (Gal. 5:17) Salvation is not about rules and regulations…neither is the RIGHTEOUSNESS OF GOD. This is a heart and relationship thing. It is all about LOVE. WE CANNOT LEAVE CHRIST OUT OF SALVATION. 

This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus” 

“Therefore no one will be declared righteous in his sight by observing the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of sin. But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify… Romans 3:20-22  

I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the LORD, which made heaven and earth. Psalm 121:1-2 -KJV

You are angry or have unforgiveness in your heart when… 

• When we’re having lengthy conversations in our mind about someone who hurt us. 
• Physiological symptoms manifest when we’re around a certain person. Sick feelings, shortness of breath, pain, depression… 
• When we look at someone and think that they are 100% bad. No redeeming qualities… 
• When our reactions are totally out of proportion to an offense. When we scream at one of our kids for doing something inconsequential…that should tell us we’re not dealing with some anger our hearts… 
• When we want something bad to happen to someone and/or we’re glad when we hear that something bad did happen to them. Jesus calls that murder in the Sermon on the Mount (see Matt.5:21-22)

The 3 Harmful Harmful Results of Unforgiveness: Bitterness, Blame and Bondage. If you chooses to live with an unforgiving heart, your life will be plagued and flooded with the three harmful issues of bitterness, blame and bondage.

Bitterness, without forgiveness will surely infect those who are struck by it. It eats away at one’s heart and life and causes men and women to become emotionally callous and vengeful. 

Blame works in the same way as bitterness. It causes vicious cycles of pain and sorrow. “He who covers a transgression seeks love, But he who repeats a matter separates friends.” (Proverbs 17:9)

By repeating the matter and continually blaming the offender, the offense gets larger and larger each time the story is told and a person is never able to find true rest or deal with the reality of the situation. Although it makes one feel for a moment that emotional progress is being made, blame is an inner defense that never solves the problem.

Refusing to forgive is spiritual incarceration or bondage. It is the cause of the victim mentality. There are many men and women who feel that they are forever captive by the actions done against them. They feel that no matter what they do, their destiny and potential are cursed by their past. Many also feel that by not forgiving, they are proving to their past that they are strong and a survivor. However, nothing can replace the power of forgiveness. 

Bottom line: If God Can’t Live With An Unforgiving Heart, Neither Can We
To forgive is not to show that you are weak, but that through Christ you are strong. “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

There are people who believe that they have every right to be angry and unforgiving. They say that their position is valid and that their feelings do not lie. However, according to the Word of God and as stated before, an unwillingness to forgive is not justified by the grounds of a person’s grudge. It will not only bring a person pain, destruction and ultimate spiritual death, but having an unforgiving attitude will also hold one captive in bitterness, blame and bondage.

Father God I pray for this dear Loved One the reader. In the name of Jesus Christ I ask You to bring repentance and forgiveness right to their heart and mind of their soul. I declare that forgiveness is ours; freely we receive and freely give in Jesus name. 

In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed. This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart." Matthew 18:34-35 (NIV)

Here is a prayer for you can pray if you are harboring unforgiveness:

Father God, I come to you in the name of the Lord Jesus. I know you love me and I love You and I desire to be free. I repent of not forgiving, of holding bitterness in my heart and being upset with People, You, Situations and even Myself. Father as you so willingly forgive, I too choose to forgive. I ask you to shine a light on my heart and show me any hurtful or traumatic experience that is holding me in bondage and any unforgiveness in my heart because of it. Show me everyone I need to forgive. Let the Spirit of Truth rise up and speak in the Name of Jesus.

(now wait and let God reveal the persons and/or situations, and insert their names saying them out loud below)

Heavenly Father I choose to forgive (_______) completely. I ask you to forgive me for releasing any hurt or anger toward them. Forgive me for judgmental and condemning thoughts , words I have spoken to them, to them and over them. In the name of Jesus Christ I speak death to those destructive seeds that I have planted and death to the harvest released. I ask you to forgive them and release them and let them not be guilty any longer of doing me any harm. I place them in your hands Lord Jesus and ask you to heal them, deliver them and set them free and use them for your glory.

Father I know that you do not make mistakes, that You are perfect in all your ways. I ask you to forgive me for holding bitterness and anger in my heart towards You because situations and circumstances. I forgive myself for letting this hurt control me and for hurting others out of my hurt. I repent of this behavior and my attitude.

It is written in Hebrews 9:14 that the Blood of Jesus Christ would purge my conscious, which is my heart. Let the Blood of Jesus Christ may purge me from all unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment.

In the name of Jesus Christ I renounce anger, bitterness, resentment, murder, hatred, violence, rejection, retaliation and bad memory recall. You no longer have power over me. You have no place among me, I am released from this wrong thinking in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.

Father God I ask that you fill me with more of Your Love. Whatever I owe to anyone in Your strength and provision help me to restore. Whatever is owed to me by any human I forgive and I release it in the name of Jesus Christ.

Father I receive healing for a broken heart that has come because of hurt, disappointment and abuse. I receive healing in my physical body. I decree that I am healed mind, soul and body and command infirmity and disease to move from me now in the name of Jesus. Thank You Father for giving me beauty for ashes of failure, replacing mourning and grief with the oil of joy and giving me a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair in Jesus name. Thank You for forgiving me and setting me free. Bind Forgiveness in my heart so that when offence comes I can forgive quickly. In Jesus name I pray, Amen. 

To My Loved And Cherished Ones

Beloved the eyes of My deliverance hold the power of My great love for you. My rain of deliverance is flowing like tears from My heart in gentle spring like showers on thirsty ground. My rain will baptize you, mantle you, and rest upon you as a gentle dove. The saturation of My prescience  poured out is the force which heals, delivers and compels the multitudes to Me. And I use what you might consider a broken life…a foolish thing to accomplish My plans and purposes. I use you.

As you experience My love it will transform you and you will then be the source of another’s breakthrough time and time again…one by one I will bring them to you and you will be to them as I am to you. Yes Beloved, the desire to do so for others is in your heart and this is where the journey does start.

Let My love have a perfect work in you, and then, freedom for others you will be able to pursue. For the power of my Love and intimacy has set you free. In submitting to My perfect work you will in turn be a key. You will help others experience and find this Liberty as you help them unlock the doors of freedom!

The power My Love works within…works from the inside you…from the inside out, and it breaks away the darkness and the issues that prevent My DNA…My Determined Nature for your life. What is My DNA for your life? It is to have a love flowing out of you as rivers of living water. For it is love and only love that will change your heart-only love releases true destiny.

Know this; I love you with an everlasting love. I loved you before you ever were and I can never love you more than I already do. I loved you then…I love you now and always will. I am good and I am love. I am here to open the eyes of your heart with a revelation…with understanding in order to receive and be transformed. You are My pearl of great price…the one I gave My life for. My rain is falling and your deliverance is at hand.”

With all My love,
Jesus
Excerpt from The Love Of God Shed Abroad In Our Heartsby Ruth McCormick & Brenda Craig

And The Love Revolution Continues
Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. …And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity”. –Colossians 3:12-14 NIV

God Bless Us
All Angeline

Many Christians are under the impression they are in right fellowship with God yet in reality they are walking hand in hand with pride down a slippery slope because of sinful anger.  Ok let’s just let that simmer for a minute. It’s a hard pill to swallow I know but we have got to be real worshipping God in Spirit and Truth. 

Ungodly anger is deceptive and many Christians are deceived by it.  Ungodly anger is designed by Satan the author of pride to destroy you and your family.  You may be angry with your former spouse, a co worker, a parent or who ever and feel you are just in your anger.  If you are dealing with ungodly anger quit justifying your anger. This is nothing more than justifying sin. 

The bible says that an angry person is one who has lost control over his own spirit. Anger empowers the enemy and will draw unclean spirits to you. When you get angry at someone and remain angry you will think and speak negative and hurtful thoughts towards them. When you do this you are sending them evil spirits or negative energy. But wait… you just might want to do that do to the person who hurt you, right! No-o-o-o-o! Your angry heart and mouth out of control will bring death to your own life. It will destroy the works of your own hands. 

Pride (believing in yourself) is the root cause of anger. In pride causes you are the center of your world.  Since you are focused on yourself, your needs, your wants, and your desires deep down you believe it is also up to you to make things happen or come to pass. And pride steps right in to fix everything. But the bible says pride goes before a fall. Pride will never fix a problem it will only make things worse. 

When God says He hates something you can be sure it is because of the damage it causes. God hates anything that separates us from Him, hence his hatred for sin. Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

These six things the Lord hates, indeed, seven are an abomination to Him:

1. A proud look [the spirit that makes one overestimate himself and underestimate others],
2. a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
3. A heart that manufactures wicked thoughts and plans,
4. feet that are swift in running to evil,
5. A false witness who breathes out lies [even under oath], and
6. he who sows discord among his brethren.

You can't always change circumstances, and you don't have the authority to change others. But you can change what's on the inside of you that makes you angry. Anger and pride comes from the inside, not the outside. 

But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.-- Colossians 3:8-10 NIV

Jesus suffered more unjust than you ever will. As God, He could have come off the cross at any time and wiped all of His accusers out. Yet He humbled Himself and even forgave His enemies. Some people think, "Well that was Jesus. I'm certainly not Jesus." Remember now, God will never ask you to do anything you are not capable of doing. So when you say that, it is pride stepping in to fix the problem again. 

Stephen was not Jesus yet he acted just like Jesus in Acts 7:60. As he was being stoned to death, he knelt down and cried with a loud voice, "Lord, lay not this sin to their charge. And when he had said this, he fell asleep". So though human you can do it. 

Since you have been born again when you walk in this manner you are out of character. It may have been you, but it is no longer you. When we are angry in an ungodly fashion, you give place to the devil, and allow him to reproduce his character through you.  Jesus wants you to reproduce His character.  When we are under control of the Holy Spirit, then the character of Jesus flows freely through you, His love, His gentleness, His compassion, His joy, and His concern for others. So get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 

Your heart is much too delicate to survive the catastrophic results of pride and ungodly anger. To destroy pride you must come to the realization that you are not who you are pretending or believing yourself to be. You are not God. You cannot change anything in your world by your own efforts. You can't even guarantee you'll be here on earth today. You didn't choose to be born and your spirit will go where He says it will. You are not in control of anything except who and what you believe. You cannot remove all the people and things that make you mad from your path, you will never win. But if you deal with the things inside you that cause your anger, you will never lose, regardless of what others do. That's the example that Jesus gave us. He was able to look at the very ones who crucified and mocked Him and say, "Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do". (Luke 23:34)

To Deal With Ungodly Anger:

1. Confess anger as pride.
2. Deal with any guilt of the past. Lay it at the feet of Jesus and leave it there. There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who don't walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
3. Forgive others.
4. Seek to become meek (humility).  This is done by submitting yourself to God, James 4:7
5. Learn to ignore petty disagreements, Proverbs 19:11 (Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense).
6. Make no friendships with a man given to anger and with a wrathful man do not associate, lest you learn his ways and get yourself into a snare. Proverbs 22:24-25
7. Guard your tongue. Proverbs 15:1, Proverbs 21:23
8. Cultivate honesty in communication; don’t let anger build up, Proverbs 27:4-6.  There is no substitute for total honesty spoken in love, Ephesians 4:15.

God Bless Us All,

Prophetess Angeline Williams

Father in the name of Jesus I stand on behalf of my sons and the men in my family. I know all things are possible with You and I know that you desire all men to be saved and come into the knowledge of the truth. You declared in Your word that You will deliver the one for whom I intercede who is not innocent that he will be delivered through the cleanness and righteousness of my hands. (Job 22:30) 

Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.(1 John 3:8) He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world. (1 John 2:2 ) In the name of Jesus Christ I decree that the devil’s works, all assignments and activities sent to blind to the unsaved men in my family and keep them from hearing, understanding and believing the Gospel of Jesus Christ is broken and destroyed by the power of Jesus Christ and His atoning blood. 

Father, I ask You to send laborers across the path of these men who can communicate Your Word effectively and reach their heart and open their eyes to the Love of the Gospel. By faith I believe that every unsaved male in my family will receive salvation. Father, I pray not only for their salvation. 

Father I also ask that the life every male in our family be a testament of Your Goodness and Mercy. Satisfy them with a long and prosperous life. Give Your angels charge to minister, accompany, defend, preserve and provide safety for them, day and night.

In the name of Jesus Christ I speak to disease and abnormalities and wrong mindsets. Release their minds and their bodies in the name of Jesus Christ and never return. I decree restoration and rejuvenation to these men in the name of Jesus Christ. 

I ask You Father to raise up intercessors to pray for these loved ones. I am confident God prayers for this loved one will not cease until Your will is accomplished in their life. 

Thank you Father for making every crooked path straight in the lives of these men in my family… in Jesus name Amen, Amen, Amen.

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This is an article written by Rana Adamchick with some very good information.

Whatever you do, "DON'T SEND THEM MONEY!"

I used to be the CEO of an online dating site called. That means I was one of the rare folks that was able to see just how many scammers there were, at any given time, joining today's online meeting sites.

Ok, hold onto your hats, as I am going to give you some very real statistics. On average, during any given day, for every 'real' person that joined our dating site, 30 criminals also joined. That clearly indicates that 29 out of every 30 people on any dating site, could, and probably are, after more than just tender kisses.

The signs are always there. They're easy to recognize, if, of course, you open your eyes. Unfortunately, many times, people don't want to look. Instead, they want to see the best in everyone. They, all too often, meander down a path that leads them right into those that would take advantage of them. Instead of finding what they sought - true love, they end up seeing through the eyes of a lamb, as they head to the nearest slaughter house.

So what are the signs to look for, and how do you avoid becoming the next statistic? Scammers always do certain things, no matter what the scam. The end result is for them to obtain money.

If you stick to one main rule, you won't have a problem. No matter what anyone says, "KEEP YOUR HANDS IN YOUR POCKETS AND DON'T TAKE THEM OUT FOR ANY REASON!"

Here are a few more cautions that will help you avoid thousands of scams:

1. If anyone asks you for money, simply say "NO".
2. If they offer you money, say "NO thanks!"
3. If they ask you to open an account for them, say, "NO, I'm not interested!"
4. If they ask you to cash a check, a money order, or a cashier's check for them - say "NO!"
5. If they ask you to pay for a green card, so they can be with you, say "NO!"
6. If they ask you to help them pay for groceries, the rent, doctor bills, etc., just say "NO!"

Repeat after me: JUST SAY NO!As long as you learn those words, and you learn to be diligent in repeating them, regardless of what story or emotion the scammer uses...you will be safe.

In case you didn't know it, scammers are VERY smart people. They convince thousands to part with their money, on a daily basis. They're pros at knowing what to say; how to get to you; how to get you to send them money and/or how to get you to accept bogus funds for them.

Stick to the above rules, no matter what type of guilt trip they lay on you. That way, you will avoid the horrible trip to the slaughter house, and reduce the possibility of becoming JUST ANOTHER STATISTIC!

“We are seeing a number of scams being perpetrated on the Internet, especially on social, dating-type websites where females are the main target,” said Chris Grey, Army CID’s spokesman.

The fraudsters are pretending to be U.S. servicemen, often serving in Iraq or Afghanistan. They will often take the true rank and name of a soldier and then combine that with photographs of a soldier found on the Internet to build a false identity to lure victims.

The scams often involve requests for money from the victim to purchase laptops,  international phones and transportation fees to be used by the “deployed soldier,” so their fictitious relationship can continue. Victims of these scams have been duped to send money, often thousands of dollars at a time, to a third-party address so the phone or laptop can be purchased for the soldier.

“We’ve even seen instances where the perpetrators are asking the victims for money to ‘purchase leave papers’ from the Army, or help pay for their flight home so they can leave the war zone,” Grey said.

Army CID is warning people to be very suspicious if they begin an online relationship with someone claiming to be an American soldier who within a matter of weeks is asking for money or marriage. Many of these cases have a distinct pattern to them, explained Grey.

“These are not soldiers, they are thieves,” he said.

The perpetrators often tell the victims that their units do not have telephones or they are not allowed to make calls or they need money to “help keep the Army Internet running.”

“We’ve even seen where the crooks said that the Army won’t allow the soldier to access their personal bank accounts or credit cards,” Grey said.

All lies, according to CID officials.

“These perpetrators, often from other countries, most notably from Ghana, Angola and Nigeria, are good at what they do and quite familiar with American culture, but the claims about the Army and its regulations are ridiculous,” Grey said.

To date, there have been no reports to Army CID indicating any U.S. servicemembers have suffered any financial loss as a result of these scams. Photographs and actual names of servicemembers have been the only thing used. On the contrary, the victims have lost thousands. 

Eph 6:11-12 

Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes.  For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 

I command lack to break from you! I command loneliness to break from you!

I command bad memories to break from you! I command every ungodly soul tie to break from you! 

You are anointed to rule, you are the head and not the tail! You are above only and not beneath! No weapon forged against you will prevail. You sit in heavenly places with Christ Jesus all that Christ is... and has... is your heritage. 

In the name of Jesus Christ,  I call forth the mate that God has prepared for you! For God has said: it is not good that man should be alone. Mate come forth to your proper place! In Jesus name. Amen, Amen, Amen

Woman of God begin to speak to your husband NOW in the Spirit and decree the Word of God to him and over him, command him to come to his proper place. 

Man of God begin begin to speak to your wife NOW in the Spirit and decree the Word of God to him and over him, command him to come to her proper place.

By Kristen Stewart/ Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH

We get married for many reasons: to share our triumphs, our failures, and our lives with someone else. We crave connection with others, and what better way to achieve that than through marriage and living happily ever?

As an added bonus, marriage may offer more than making us happier people — tying the knot can improve our health and our longevity.

Healthy Relationship: Key to a Longer Life

Can getting married actually help you live longer? Yes, according to Scott Haltzman, MD, clinical assistant professor in the department of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University in Providence, R.I., and author of The Secrets of Happy Families: Eight Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment.

“Ninety percent of married women who were alive at age 45 make it to 65, vs. slightly more than 80 percent of divorced and never-married women,” says Dr. Haltzman. “Mortality rates are 50 percent higher for unmarried women.”

The results are even more remarkable in men. Men who were alive at 48 years old also had a 90 percent chance of reaching age 65 if they were married, but only a 60 to 70 percent chance if they were single — that’s a 250 percent higher mortality rate.

Healthy Relationship: Good Physical Health

According to research, being married can significantly improve your health. “The health benefits of marriage are so strong that a married man with heart disease can be expected to live, on average, 1,400 days [nearly four years] longer than an unmarried man with a healthy heart,” says Haltzman. “This longer life expectancy is even longer for a married man who has cancer or is 20 pounds overweight compared to his healthy but unmarried counterpart. The advantages for women are similar.”

Other highlights of the health benefits of tying the knot include:

• A married man who smokes more than a pack a day can expect to live as long as a divorced man who doesn’t smoke.
• Unmarried people spend twice as much time in hospitals as married people.
• Cancer cures are 8 to 17 percent more successful when a patient is married; research showed being married was comparable to being in an age category 10 years younger.

Healthy Relationship: Good Mental Health

As goes the body, so goes the mind. “Marital status was the most important factor for predicting depression,” says Haltzman. “Rates of major depression were nine times higher in unmarried men.” Depression, and in particular dysphoria — a feeling of anxiety, depression, and unease — were also higher in single women compared to married women.

Other statistics include:

• Divorce or marital separation more than doubles the risk of suicide in men.
• Tying the knot results in a decreased risk for substance abuse. Married men and women drink less alcohol and use less marijuana and cocaine than those who are not married.
• Divorced men are more likely to smoke, while married men are likely to quit.
• Seventy percent of chronic drinkers were divorced or separated, while only 15 percent were married.

There’s no doubt that marriage requires give and take and good communication, but ultimately the benefits of companionship can keep you healthier, both physically and mentally, than going it on your own. 

Once you get to know THE NEW MAN, you become familiar with what you see your FATHER do and gravitate towards that only. CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY SEE. You immediately hear and heed the voice of YOUR FATHER saying no, not this one- move on and you will do it without regret. 

My Pastor did message on “Identity Crisis” the will bless and help tremendously. You can listen online http://tvimc1.tripod.com/id36.html

Belindaexplained why she left her husband of 25 years: "I married when I was 17 years old. I didn't have an identity. I didn't even know who I was.” After a season of "discovering" many things about herself - that she was artistic, she loved people, she had a servant's heart to take care of others - she also realized she was a woman who loved God and wanted to be obedient to Him. She knew that meant not deserting her marriage vows. She returned to her marriage after a six-month separation and, 20 years later, is not regretting her decision to trust God with who He was - someone who would honor her if she held tight to her situation and trusted Him  over her own confusion about who she might or might not be. 

Helenwas truly a woman on the edge. Right out of high school, she married a man she barely knew and  spent much of her married life and growing up years searching for her identity, striving for peace in a stormy marriage, and struggling to keep her sanity while raising three young children. By the time her last child  reached high school, she divorced her husband whom she claimed "never really knew me," married an old boyfriend from high school "who has always thought the world of me" and moved on, claiming she had finally found herself. But today, in her mid 50s, she is divorced again, her children are estranged from her, and she continues to wonder if she is on the right path for her life.    

Kellywas a popular teenager - and the star of her school's track team -- when she broke her ankle in a cheerleading accident that ended her track career. Desperate to find out who she was - apart from the school's fastest runner - she fell into a downward spiral of eating disorders, out of an effort to not gain weight because of her inactivity, and to gain the attention of those who continued to compliment her on her weight. But several years later, she realized how she looked didn't fill her with a sense of significance. It only led her to a life-threatening addiction.  

What is at the root of our search for identity? Why are we so consumed with trying to "find" ourselves? Is there really a piece of us missing out there that we must find? I believe that, rather than needing to find ourselves, we need to forget about ourselves and focus on the One who created us to love Him and enjoy Him forever. I truly believe our struggle to find ourselves is really just an ignorance of who we are in the eyes of our Creator, an unawareness of how much we're worth in the eyes of our Redeemer, and an unclear picture of our ability to glorify Him simply by loving Him and living for Him. 

Ignore the Lies and Invest in the Truth. here will be days when your own negative self-talk tells you that you are worthless. There will be days when the enemy of your soul will torment you with feelings that you are not young enough, thin enough, or attractive enough to really be happy in life. There are days when the enemy will taunt you to start walking a path toward your own identity. But beware: Christ told us to lose our life (quit focusing on ourselves) in order to really find it. When you look at yourself, you will see your shortcomings, weaknesses, and mistakes. But, when you direct your gaze at Christ, you will find perfection, strength, unconditional love, beauty and completeness. 

Immerse Yourself in God's Word. Reciting Scripture keeps our minds focused on God's truth rather than Satan's lies. The Word also keeps us unstained by the world and its ideals, philosophies and values. The world will tell you - on television, on the radio, in songs, or across the table at the coffee shop - that you are the most important person in your life and finding yourself is paramount. But Jesus said: "If your first concern is to look after yourself, you'll never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you'll find both yourself and me" (Matthew 10:39, The Message) 

Invite Accountabilityinto your Life. Proverbs 27:17tells us: "As iron sharpens iron, so one man (or woman) sharpens another." The Bible also tells us of the benefit of having another person in our life who can hold us accountable and keep us from falling: "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, 12). 

Get real with someone you trust and ask them to pray for you and hold you accountable in the area in which you struggle.  

Incorporate Daily Prayer into You Life. If you're only praying when you're in trouble, then you're in trouble. Prayer keeps us focused on God. So it needs to be continual, so we don't lose our focus and start thinking of ourselves again. First Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to "pray continually." I find that when I do that, my focus is more on God, than on myself.  When I struggle with feelings of guilt or shame, with wanting to feel more significant, or with wanting something in my life to change, I must redirect my focus onto God and start praising Him. When we recount God's goodness, recite His faithfulness, and repeat songs of His worthiness it switches the focus from our self-pity to our Savior's praise. 

Can you, too, proclaim the goodness of the One who is the Answer at the end of your search? Will you, in this moment, surrender your search for yourself and replace it with the realization that, in Jesus, you have found all you could ever want?  There is something wonderful in being able to say: "I've finally found what I've been looking for." 

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Cindi McMenaminis a national speaker and the author of several books including When Women Walk Alone. This article is an excerpt from her newest book Women on the Edge.